If grasping at a false identity leads to a downward spiral of emptiness and craving, then laying hold of our true identity leads to an upward spiral of joy and purpose. The key to all of this is knowing who you are. You are not the Christ. You are not the bridegroom. Give up on your frantic work to secure the praise and worship of the bride. It will never satisfy you anyway. In Christ though, in the gospel, in the reception of God’s mercy purchased for you on the cross, you are a friend of God. And rooting your soul in that, letting your soul be satisfied with that, you can go forth and serve those around you.